Let me first start off by stating that this is my personal blog. Which means, a lot of what I write about is my personal experiences and opinion. Don’t go quoting me or anything. Lol. 

I want to discuss some misconceptions and stereotypes that have come to my mind recently. Some of which are centered around the current state of America. 

#1 – The Angry Black Woman! Oh Lord, now I get this one a lot. Being a black woman in leadership is challenging. Off top, people tell me that they are intimidated by me. That is until they get to know me and then they are pleasantly surprised. There is a misunderstanding that if you are a black woman who is confident in yourself and your ability, that means you are also a b***c (let me keep it PG-13), mean, and/or intimidating. This could be far from the truth. Now there are times I may come off a little strong or have my resting “b***c” face as some may say,  but that is only because of how hard I had to fight to get where I am or have the respect, I know I deserve. Unfortunately, the images that many people see in the media of black women only feeds into the stereotype. But please stop feeding into this stereotype. Because I am black, woman, beautiful, strong, intelligent, resilient, innovative, kind, loving, powerful, influential, and unapologetic!

#2 – Make America Great Again – How can you make something “great again” when it wasn’t great in the first place? I’m just saying. This country was built on taking things from people. Taking land, taking labor (slaves), and taking lives. The United States of America was built on the premise of racism and hatred from the outset. Unfortunately, just as with any relationship, usually what the foundation it is built on is what keeps it going (i.e. God, sex, friendship, etc.) and that is why there is still so much racism, hatred, and unrest in 2020. But I know that things will get better. But that slogan has got to go. 

#3 I don’t need to go to therapy – To be honest, we all do. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you or that you are crazy. One definition of therapy is an act, hobby, task, or program that relieves tension. One thing I have learned in 2020 is that we have to be kind to ourselves. Going to therapy and doing things that bring self-love are important steps in taking care of yourself. If you don’t take care of you, how can you take care of others?? Too many of us (myself included) are pouring from empty cups. Going to therapy helped me in so many ways. It was nice to talk to someone who did not know or have certain expectations of me. Remember, your mental health is probably the most important thing. If your mind isn’t right, most other things in your life won’t be either. 

#4 – The clock is ticking – I turn 35 this year. It came so fast. I just knew that I would have been married with 3 kids by now (God laughing). And if my doctor tells me one more time that I need to have a baby because my eggs are not getting any younger, I will SNAP! As women we have the pressure of this “biological clock” and not to mention family and friends who ask about you meeting a man or having a baby. I used to feel the weight of this pressure and feeling like I was missing out. But I became free when I truly realized the plan that God has for each of us is unique and designed by Him to fulfill His purpose. He doesn’t operate by any clock. He knows exactly what we need and where we need to be. So, I look forward to year 35. I have accomplished so much in my life so far that most people may not ever accomplish in their lifetime. So, ladies, don’t let the pressure from society ever make you doubt the plan that He ultimately has for you!